tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2331752969086770281.post6051158112158072226..comments2024-03-25T09:47:40.771-04:00Comments on Clover Lane: Sibling Adjustment to New BabySarahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14912466557223829314noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2331752969086770281.post-12258728951856549622015-12-15T22:00:06.907-05:002015-12-15T22:00:06.907-05:00Have you heard the expression, "Families with...Have you heard the expression, "Families with babies and families without babies always feel sorry for each other"? We pitied our friends who didn't have babies at home... and maybe they pitied us for our lack of trips and toys, but siblings are the best gift ever (I have 7!) I don't remember being jealous, and my own kids have viewed their siblings as wonderful blessings. We are so lucky to have a baby, we say! I hate getting new baby books from the library though, as it seems the majority of them are based on the idea that the first child doesn't want a sibling and fears the parent won't love them anymore etc. Such a silly idea to put into the child's mind! Magpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15313004414044958585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2331752969086770281.post-42722918279298102092015-12-11T12:58:37.652-05:002015-12-11T12:58:37.652-05:00This is beautiful. We are weeks away from having o...This is beautiful. We are weeks away from having our sixth, and I so agree that no matter how many times one brings a new baby into the world, there is the same worry and fear about how it will all play out. Each time however I have been blown away at the joyous siblings and the love that comes into our home with each new baby. I am also always surprised at my new capacity. I am always sure I am not able to handle any more, but each baby has brought new abilities and better priorities. I also second your advice on finding a good midwife. That has been the best thing I have ever done when to having babies. The good ones are pretty incredible. MaurLohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13885101727734888408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2331752969086770281.post-30507636225085007072015-12-10T18:20:15.227-05:002015-12-10T18:20:15.227-05:00Perfect, Sarah. The heart does grow and siblings a...Perfect, Sarah. The heart does grow and siblings are the most beautiful gift you could give any child. Thank you. Amy Makechniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17854047134365994738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2331752969086770281.post-73154426445451772042015-12-10T17:17:26.802-05:002015-12-10T17:17:26.802-05:00Hi Fawn-My first birth was excruciating and it too...Hi Fawn-My first birth was excruciating and it took me months (body and psyche) to recover. Although I was overjoyed, I cried from fear when I found out I was pregnant with my second-because I just imagined going through that pain again and having the same things happen. I switched to a midwife and it made all the difference in the world-she was so caring, so reassuring, so knowledgeable (I have posterior births and the first dr I had, had no idea how to handle it and made it much much worse) and I really trusted her. I would highly recommend a good midwife, because they will take the time to listen to your past experiences, find out what went wrong and how they can make a difference this next time-and then they stay with you your entire labor. Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14912466557223829314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2331752969086770281.post-27263293719192849522015-12-10T14:41:31.917-05:002015-12-10T14:41:31.917-05:00Hmmm, I was sure I was only going to have just one...Hmmm, I was sure I was only going to have just one, but your lovely post has made me question that decision :) Any advice for Moms who had a traumatic first birth experience and are having a hard-time with the idea of having a second?Fawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11405430399504698642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2331752969086770281.post-61797274928768981962015-12-10T10:49:33.856-05:002015-12-10T10:49:33.856-05:00You are so wise and you have such a way with words...You are so wise and you have such a way with words. I hope someday I can find the words to encourage mothers like you have. It's an inspiration. I only have the one child and am not feeling ready for more yet, but I am Pinnning this article. It's possibly the most sound parenting advice I've heard. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12262625463535852522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2331752969086770281.post-37797625225973318322015-12-10T10:28:42.676-05:002015-12-10T10:28:42.676-05:00 Pregnant with number seven, and this post made me... Pregnant with number seven, and this post made me cry! Darn hormones :) Thanks for being so encouraging and uplifting when I needed it.Evalyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15624089310890029593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2331752969086770281.post-40403482900302224602015-12-10T06:00:01.979-05:002015-12-10T06:00:01.979-05:00Spot on and you have a lot of experience to back u...Spot on and you have a lot of experience to back up what you've written! It helps to remember that your husband can be very critical to this adjustment too - he can cuddle the baby while you spend some focused time with the other children and he can step in with the other kids. I used to treasure the times my husband would take the older kids to the park or to breakfast or to visit grandparents and I could rest with the newborn. The older kids were getting a little treat and special time. And a baby Bjorn allowed me to still take the older kids on walks or bike rides on our road, or out to the swings...the baby would be content and I had hands free to push the others or hold hands on a walk. A sibling is definitely a gift!Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16059542061229594857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2331752969086770281.post-16621142318649102592015-12-10T05:19:00.349-05:002015-12-10T05:19:00.349-05:00The greatest gift! I love this post. Thank you!The greatest gift! I love this post. Thank you!luvnmy10https://www.blogger.com/profile/09164832406300940298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2331752969086770281.post-13122269945064955202015-12-10T00:34:42.582-05:002015-12-10T00:34:42.582-05:00I think you wrote this just for me. I was in tear...I think you wrote this just for me. I was in tears earlier this afternoon talking to my mom about the new baby and #3 adjusting to not being "the baby" anymore. I have been dreading it, honestly.<br /><br />But all your advice is so perfect, and best of all, I loved your reminder that a sibling is the greatest gift. That is why I got pregnant again. Because I believe in family. And that new family will be beautiful. Even if there is a bit of growing pains as we expand.<br /><br />Thank you so much for your wisdom.Shelly Cunninghamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13298824261677193477noreply@blogger.com