Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Heart Day

I went all out this year.
Here is the extent of my Valentine's Day decorations.

Now don't go all crazy Pinning.  Control yourselves, please! :)

I also outdid myself in other ways: I have no cute blogging marriage tips, no thoughts on love, no exciting romantic weekend planned.  We are buying a big Dairy Queen ice cream cake today and eating the entire thing after dinner-and then Jeff heads off to coach the two basketball teams late into the night.

Back to my totally awesome and creative Valentine's Day decoration.  I sent Isaac up in the cold old attic to get that heart.  Why is it that the male species can't find a thing to save their lives?  I said, "It's a large glitter heart, it's at the top of the attic step hanging on the wall to the left."  I kid you not, he came down about 10 minutes later with a bunch of tangled Christmas lights.  He said, "Is this what you are talking about?"

I had to laugh, and he did too.  Honestly, what's the deal?   It's the whole hunter/gatherer male/female thing maybe?  I thought maybe lots of practice in the "finding" department would help-because I did realize that when I needed something found, fetched, gathered, I began to develop an overwhelming dependence on my only daughter.  I would hardly get the request out of my mouth and she would present exactly what I needed in my hands.  "Abbey do you know that red..."  Yup, there it was in front of me, no questions asked, no detailed explanation with specific directions needed.

But how unfair!  I decided that all that was doing was enabling the males of this family to...to what?  Not find things.  But despite many, many practice attempts over the years, I decided I was fighting Mother Nature and I just needed to come to some sort of acceptance of the difference of sexes.  And Abbey and I have secretly had many a good giggle about it...that's our reward for the extra work.

So maybe that's my Valentine's Day message-accept what you cannot change and then find a good girl friend or daughter to giggle about it secretly together?   Eat lots of ice cream cake and take the pressure of yourselves because you know you want that more than chocolate or roses?  Chill with the competition and high expectations because sometimes an old cardboard heart that took 3 seconds to hang is enough? I'm not sure but that's all I have for you today.

Happy Valentine's Day!

48 comments:

Beth said...

Oh my gosh, thanks for a great laugh Sarah! I barely got the Christmas wreath off the door in time for Valentine's Day!

Beth said...

PS I can't take it for another second - I started bagging today. The cabin fever is overwhelming and the clutter is suffocating my sanity. I just wanted you to know that I thought of you and smiled as I filled my first black garbage bag for Goodwill. 1 down, 39 to go!!

kami @ nobiggie.net said...

Ha! I love it! An DQ Icecream cake sounds perfect!

Happy Valentine's Day!

ps. I think of you often and I'm so thankful for the advice you have given me. <3

Beth S. said...

I am sitting in the dark just before bed laughing out loud!! Thank you so much for summarizing the difference so well.

I will be the one running off to teach knitting tomorrow night, but was rewarded early with peanut butter M&Ms and sweetheart candies!

Kelly said...

It's great when others confirm that it IS the male species and not just my husband. :) I laughed out loud too. And I often find myself completely forgetting to decorate for the smaller holidays. Hooray for your glitter heart.

dsilva51 said...

FYI, going to pin it right now! Lol.

Jenny@ L.O.T.s of Love said...

Your Valentine's Day is as romantic as mine...my husband is joining the Knights of Columbus tonight. All men and secret handshakes and stuff. I'll enjoy an evening at home with my 3 mini-Valentines!

Denise said...

What is it about men/boys that they can never find anything? If my husband and sons are having problems finding something they always say "I must have been using my "man eyes".

Simply LKJ said...

Thanks for the laugh! And, to be honest...I am loving the simplicity of that single heart.

knit one, knit two said...

Mmm. Ice cream cake!

LOL at your heart. That's more than what's on my door - my Christmas wreath. It's red sparkle with a white dove - it works, right? Have a good one!

melissa * 320 Sycamore said...

Happy Valentines!! I love your big heart that men can't see. And an ice cream cake sounds perfect.

Grace in my Heart said...

Hahaha....love it! There's a man in this house who also has trouble finding things too. Glad I'm not alone... Enjoy your cake! Happy Valentine's Day!

Natacha said...

Ha!
Every mother needs at least one daughter!

Natacha (mother of 3 boys and 1 daughter)

luvnmy10 said...

I love the way my husband and I feel about each other 365 days of the year, not just one day a year. We have never made a big deal about Valentines day. When my kiddos were little I would make pink heart shaped pancakes, or swirl a bit of strawberry jam in their oatmeal and make a big deal about it all for them--they are my valentines, too and they care about such things when they are little. I love that you are normal, life goes on, with or without roses and chocolate, and frankly, I would rather have the flowers on another completely random day, unexpected, unforced--on a day when he felt just completely motivated by love for me. Those special days are the best! Happy Valentines day, Sarah!

Jane Skoch said...

Haha...I didn't even dig out the hearts! We were at Target (DS needed school shoes and they had NONE!) There was a group standing around the card section and DD nudged me to it. I told her that I was making a special meal. My husband said every meal is special. But he is getting a cherry pie - that's extra! We love ice cream cakes and it has been a special treat when we are celebrating a huge success, typically at school.

sherrie said...

Not good news for me. I live with five boys. :)

Julie @ Strawberry Adventures said...

Love it! You actually made me laugh out loud about the going "pinning" crazy!

Happy Valentine's Day to you and yours!

Becky Brown said...

a perfect post for Valentine's Day. I never got out anything for decor and I just realized last night I'd be shopping at the Dollar Store for our annual "Love Dinner". We also celebrate the dog's birthday at our love dinner. Sometimes I go all out. This year I didn't. I'm cool with it.

Stacy said...

I'm the only female in the house. They are always amazed that I can find things. . .

Felicia said...

LOL! You just made my day. I usually go all out (even though I have four boys and no one cares).

Today, I'm just NOT feeling it.

Best post ever.

Sue said...

"Now don't go all crazy Pinning. Control yourselves, please! :)"

Laughed right out loud at that! HILARIOUS!

Meagan Kenney said...

Happy Valentine's Day! So glad I have two daughters to giggle with when they're older :)

Cheryl said...

I LOVE LOVE this! I saw a post on facebook that asked what Vday crafts you have done with your kids. We have done exactly ZERO and I was feeling a bit bad, but you made me laugh and feel better about myself! My kids loved our simple homemade cards and cookies this morning.

kara jayne said...

your awesome.

Victoria said...

I heart you and your honest, open ways!

My husband and I don't make a big deal out of Valentine's Day around here. Even when we dated in high school we simply fixed a meal and ate it at one of our parents houses then when we married we made steaks and baked potatoes and ate it over candlelight in our own home. No waiting for 2 hours for a table somewhere and no pressure for him or me! No red roses or tacky cards either and I think it's just perfect for me!

Now that I have a little one, I do decorate a little more for her and this morning she had heart shaped eggs and biscuit. Simple and easy, peasy.

Wendy said...

love it!

Bia said...

Your decorations are one heart ahead of mine!:))

Suzanne said...

This is so sweet and real and true. I don't have one thing in this house that would show in any way that it's Valentine's Day. Well, there are a couple of leftover cards that my little boy took to school today. Not that I don't appreciate the meaning...I just don't have the time or energy! A pot of chili for supper and some Girl Scout cookies. Then, my hubby and I are sneaking out for a Johnny Mathis concert!

Marlowe said...

Ha! I asked my husband to put new lightbulbs in my closet for valentine's day. He was thrilled at such a simple request and I'm thrilled to not be dressing in the dark. Men can be so simple :) Happy Valentine's day to you! With teens enduring high school valentine's day .. I went on a dating rant on my blog today. I like your message better :)

Carin said...

Ha ha ha! Funny... and so true!

Natalie B. said...

Sarah, Sarah....thank you for that post it made me laugh SO hard. I have 4 boys and totally GET it. I was having a bit of a stressful day running around like a fool, and this made my day. Thanks!

AnnaCo. said...

God made us different for a reason and I have to remind myself of this daily. Thanks for this reminder. My little girl has been known to say things "smell like boy". I love the "boys" in my life, but I just have to chuckle at that reference. Great post! Thanks for sharing! Blessings, Anna

Jo said...

I love the heart!

Danielle said...

This was a refreshing post to read today! So funny! Love it!

JK and S said...

My 5-year old daughter and I say the same thing about my husband. We sing this little song - "look around and you will find it," as there are many days that he just needs to move the ketchup to locate the jar of pickles, or whatever! Oh, well.....we're used to it, by now.

Jennifer J said...

On "The Roseanne Show", Roseanne once lamented about the inability of men to find things, and always look to the woman to do so. She postulated that men believed that the uterus was a homing device.

TheFiveDays said...

I always love visiting your blog. :) Happy Valentine's Day!!! Enjoy that cake!

Rachel said...

Sarah, you gave me a good laugh, and THAT was a great Valentine's gift!

We are ending the day with Thai takeout, chocolate-dipped strawberries, and Downton Abbey. And that, in my book, is a perfect Valentine's Day! (Hubby by my side, of course. ;) )

WNS said...

My dad was asked to pick up some "California King bed sheet with a 400+ thread count". He brought back King size sheets with a 300 thread count and said "will these work?". Really?
Sometimes guys just don't get it.

mom2lots7 said...

It's beautiful in its simplicity? Go with that :) No, I love it and I love your blog. I laughed out loud when you said "now don't go crazy pinning".

Truly, I hope you felt loved today. Isn't that what we all really want, anyway?

Erin said...

Oh my gosh Sarah. LOVED THIS!! So funny. I laughed so loud when I read that pinning comment! You are the best. Maybe that's why we get along so well. We're good at keeping it real. :)

Amy said...

That was the BEST post ever. I laughed until I cried.

Love is all you need said...

Hope you guys had a lovely day!

Tracey Steele said...

Lol, I always tell the males in our family it is because men just don't have 'looking hormones!'

Amanda I said...

Men can't find anything, no matter what age. My son is 3 and I'll say "pick up the cup by your feet" and he'll turn around to look for it.

colby, meredith, caden, &amp; carter said...

I can relate! My husband and son were looking for something (together!) that was in plain sight the other day and I just watched them for a few minutes before helping them out. . .it was too entertaining!

Barb said...

This made me giggle. First, the comment about not knocking ourselves out Pinning. :-)

Second, the scene where Andrew's (was it Andrew? I don't want to have to scroll up and look, so forgive me if I'm wrong on which boy it was) bringing you the tangled Christmas lights. HA!

And third the vision of Abbey knowing exactly what you want before it even gets out of your mouth.

Thanks for making me laugh.

sandi said...

yes, males and finding things. years ago i sent my now nine year old upstairs to bring down something that i cannot recall right now ;-), about 10 minutes later he came down with a stack of diapers. "mom, i don't know what you sent me up for but i figured you could use a stack of diapers down here also". i appreciated the thought towards his younger sister but we both got a huge laugh from that!

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