I had pulled it all off, I wanted to give myself a pat on the back, and put my aching feet up to rest, but I realized, that through it all, I forget to stop to “smell the flowers”. The flowers for me at Christmas time are what I call Sparkly Eyes. If you stop at the right moments, and put all that work aside, you’ll get a moment that makes it all worth while.
I remember once years ago, I had a terrible, desperate-feeling, panic-inducing thought around 11 a.m. on Christmas Day. I, for a moment, had entertained the fact that one day I wouldn’t always have a child young enough to still exude that awesome, jumping-out-of-their-skin-with-excitement Christmas energy. I realized that I better not miss that energy while I have it. I better soak up every minute of that magic while it’s here, in my house, because one day it will have disappeared.
Sparkly Eyes are almost always found in the little moments...not the big manufactured ones. They require you to be still, to put all else aside and pay attention...to be fully present.
If you look you will find them.
Maybe it’s when the Advent calendar is pulled out of the attic and the countdown begins.
Or when you take the time to peer out the window at bedtime and spot elf tracks in the snow.
It could be when you watch your child pick a name from the Angel Tree at church, and she comes back to you excited that she found the perfect match. (Which happens to be a baby girl who needs a doll. Yessss!)
Maybe it’s that first year after Santa doesn’t look so scary anymore to your little toddler, and she peers at him with wonder instead of sobbing.
The child presenting a gift that was slaved over with glue and glitter, wrapped with half a roll of tape.
When that perfect gingerbread man is proudly created amidst the mess of cookie cutter and sprinkles.
Or that first glance down the stairs, around the corner, under the Christmas tree early Christmas morning…Santa really came. (The photo above is my Andrew's first glimpse in the wee hours of the morning.)
I try to take the time and stop and stare at these little precious faces now. Life is too short, and if you need proof of this, look at last year's Christmas picture. They'll only be little so long. The rest of that stuff that occupies our brain and time, it’s important of course…we moms manage it all every year, whether it’s with proper planning or by the skin of our teeth..
...but the Sparkly Eyes moments make it all worth it, it's a gift back to us for sure, and the best kind us moms can receive.
We are left with memories of the magic and spirit and joy of Christmas, created in our homes, treasured in our hearts forever.
Thanks, Sarah. I needed this today. It's been a day. A day where I've contemplated Grinchdom.
ReplyDeleteTomorrow, I'm gonna watch for the sparkle.
Great post, that is my main goal this season, enjoy it and see it through my children's eyes.
ReplyDeleteOn the Santa note, PLEASE share how you handled the Santa/Santa's not real for our middle aged kids. I have an 8 year old this year who is trying SO hard to believe but a few kids on the playground are ruining it for her. I am not prepared on what to say when she flat out asks "Is there really a Santa Claus?".
As usual, you so eloquently remind me just what's important. Thank you Sarah.
ReplyDeleteOh thank you! I'm going to be on the look out. What a beautiful reminder Sarah! Love to you.
ReplyDeleteOh, I saw this tonight! My kids and I were dancing to Christmas carols in the living room and. I sat down to take a break and my son lay down on his back, hands behind his head, knees bent just gazing at the tree! I sat gazing at him, so perfect I just didn't know what to call it! Sparkly eyes sounds perfect!
ReplyDeleteSo determined not to miss the sparkley eye moments..and to enjoy all the little things that turn out to be the big things after all. Thanks for your timely encouragement. And Merry Christmas to you and your family!
ReplyDeleteI would like blogger to put a "LIKE" button. I am not a fan of Christmas, I can only see the stress of travelling across the world to see the family, the frustrations, the expectations... I will look for the sparkly eyes this year. Thank you :)
ReplyDeleteAmen! Thank you for the gentle nudge to remember what Christmas is all about.
ReplyDeletei have been reading your blog for awhile (love it!) but never posted. this is one heck of a post. you are so spot-on with your words...you are an eloquent writer! thank you so much for all your wonderful insights! i look forward every morning to your blog!
ReplyDeleteps/ i LOVE your kitchen too!
Precious. Thanks for reminder. Really isn't that what matters? Love it.
ReplyDeleteI have caught quite a few with my son this year (age 4), and I can't wait to see them with my little one (age 2). Perfect timing on this important message!
ReplyDeleteBeautifully put. My daughter is 21 and has always had that wonder. The end of the semester is stressful, but that passes and the twinkles abound. This year, though, I'm a bit worried - her boyfriend is "not on speaking terms with Christmas." I'm hoping that she will influence him and not the other way around.
ReplyDeleteEnjoy your blessings and merry Christmas.
Oh, I so needed this today. what a perfect picture. Who needs a sparkly kitchen when you've got that?? xo
ReplyDeleteThank you Sarah, I needed to read this today :)
ReplyDeleteSarah, thank you for visiting my blog and leaving me the "Santa answer" link. Right on!
ReplyDeleteI love this. I so agree. I was just thinking about the exact same thing this morning. Plus I was also thinking I need your address...
ReplyDeleteThanks again for reminders of things we know, but forget because of all the "other" stuff we choose to do. I cried good tears this morning thinking of the sparkly eyes I have already enjoyed this year.
ReplyDeletethanks for the "make the memories matter" moment. Love'd it.
ReplyDeleteGosh Sarah....Now I'm crying. I couldn't even read throug the whole post. I will finish reading it later once the kids have gone to bed and I can cry without hearing "what's wrong mommy?" The other night my husband was working late and I put on a Christmas movie to watch with the kids and I just realized that it is not going to get better than this. I had all four of my kids snuggled up with me on the couch and I stopped and told them that I wanted them to know that when they are all grown up and have babies of their own I will remember this moment. Before I knew it the older one's were balling, the little one didn't get why they were crying but he started in because they were doing it. Oh Lord, I am going to turn my children into jello. Maybe I am more emotional because our little one's are turning 3 in a few days. I find I have to make such a concerted effort to not let my son's birthday get "lost" in the fray. But my motto is "No Regrets". I will cherish every little twinkle! Merry Christmas!
ReplyDeleteThank you! What wonderful things to remember! Our "baby" is now 8. I dread knowing that in a few years there will be no more Santa, although I may not let it go:) My bigger girls have been wonderful playing Santa for her. I don't remember HOW to talk about that.
ReplyDeleteThis is an absolutely perfect reminder for me this week. I know Christmas is only 11 days away now (gasp!) and yet, I feel like it's not even here because I've been so tied up in the ordinary everyday things going on I don't take the time to stop and remind myself why this time of year is always so magical. Thanks for this post. The timing was spot on.
ReplyDeleteAwesome and such needed post!! I am already filled with the anxiety of Christmas being "over" that it is taking away the spirit, while it is here! LOL! So silly, but I even try not to to hear my son and his excited "count-down" to Christmas Day! I need to focus on the present and watch for the sparkle before it is gone...thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!
ReplyDeleteMy mom used to say, "If you don't have Christmas in your heart, you won't find it under the tree". Didn't do much for me then, but makes a world of sense now.
ReplyDeleteSuzanne
Perfectly put. You made me cry... again :) Thank you for reminding me... again. Merry Christmas!
ReplyDeleteWhat a great reminder...you nailed that one on the head!
ReplyDeleteSo thoughtful and so true. Thank you for reminding me to slow down. My little one will only be little for so long...
ReplyDeletetrue, you are a wise mama! :)
ReplyDeleteYou know, I feel kind of guilty cause I don't do all the fancy parties and knock myself out trying to create this and that but I can honestly tell you, I am present in the moment 95% of the time. That's the trade off for me. I do believe when I am on my death bed I will be happy knowing I was there with my family and I gave them everything I had. I love your posts, this one made me cry. Merry Christmas :)
ReplyDeleteWonderful! Do you mind if I steal this for POM?
ReplyDeleteBeautifully written. I really appreciate reading bits of advice like this while my children are still young - my biggest fear is having regrets over not cherishing these precious moments when they are little and everything is exciting and magical to them. Thank you for sharing this with us! X
ReplyDeleteOh Sarah, I love this. Someone commented on my blog today saying that she'd read something similar here today. Since I haven't been in my reader since yesterday I had to hop right over. This is so beautiful. I love the way you put it all together. The sparkly eyes. I won't forget this.
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I wish we were real life friends you are too cool.
ReplyDeleteYes, thanks for the reminder!
ReplyDeleteBeautifully written Sarah! I love this. I am cherishing every sparkly eyed moment this season and feeling a bit sad knowing how quickly they'll be gone. When our youngest ones leave Elementary the two of need to fly somewhere and meet and cry together. :)
ReplyDeleteI finally got around to posting my photo garland - completely inspired by you. Thank you so much for your blog. I'm sure it's a lot of work to keep up, but I have learned (and am still learning so much from you). I couldn't volunteer nearly as much this season with good causes like I usually do and I thought to myself, it's ok. This is all I can do right now and it's ok because Sarah says it is. :)
Wishing you a wonderful holiday this year!
this is wonderful! i've felt the "missing it" so much since "growing up." i've wondered how to return to the magic of christmas that i remember from my childhood.
ReplyDeletei think i got my answer. thank you!!
perfect!
ReplyDeleteI could cry reading that and then scrolling back up to look at the picture again. It's always the small moments isn't it? Thanks for that.
ReplyDeleteI just love your blog. I think I say that with every comment I make! :o) Thank you for reminding me about the things I would end up missing. Luckily I'm reading you while I'm a young mother of 4, 3, and 1... reading you keeps me from missing the little things that I might otherwise get caught up in and miss. If I could have more friends like you I would feel so full inside!
ReplyDeleteAMEN!!!! You have put into words what I have been trying to express to my husband as to why I want Christmas morning at OUR house for our kids. It's about the experience (selfishly) that I want to have watching my children. I don't want to be stressed out packing up all the crap to go stay at my inlaws (which is NEVER fun, esp on a holiday when the chaos reaches toxic levels). My kids 7yr, twins 4yr, and 1yr are not going to be little long and the magic of Christmas will fade quickly. My 7 yr old is already asking if Santa is real. *heart breaking* Thanks again for your point of view. awesome!
ReplyDeleteOh, this made me cry. My sons are ten and seven and I know I don't have many years of Santa left (a highlight so far this year was my ten-year-old earnestly insisting to his younger brother that Santa is real--so sweet). Thanks for the reminder!
ReplyDeleteLove the meaning of this post. Beautiful. Thanks for sharing.
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